Why "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" Empowers Passive Men

Yes, I read the book.  14 years later it is still doing damage on the Christian community.  I'm not attacking the author, but it was written out of frustration when he was dating like crazy and not guarding one's heart, which was admitted in the book, and dating ends up being the scapegoat.  He jettisons hundreds of years of dating tradition that has worked well for men & women alike in western society for an unrealistic courtship method that creates undue pressure for both sexes.  Dating is denounced, and courtship is praised as the "biblical" way.  If one wanted to be "biblical", ask your parents for an arranged marriage.

This whole courtship idea also panders to the passive man, and their not asking the girl just justifies their passivity, expecting God to drop "the right girl" in their lap.  Passiveness is man's biggest problem, so suck it up cupcake.  World Mag has an excellent article with great interviews on how ideas in "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" has permiated Christian thinking and is creating more single Christians than it is helping (big thanks to my amazing girlfriend for finding this article). http://www.worldmag.com/articles/18064

Guys, suck it up and ask the girl out.  You might be surprised how often a girl will say yes instead of no.  Your not asking for her hand in marriage, your asking for a date, and dating is intentionally getting to know someone that may eventually lead into marriage.  I understand guarding your heart, and wanting to make sure "she is the one", but how will you ever know if you don't ask a few girls out?  At the same time, be discerning, don't be a "dating whore" and be known for dating every cute girl who walks by.

Luckily there are other Christian authors who know dating is a perfectly acceptable way to find a mate.

The God Who Judges

Is God all love, or all wrath?  Why is God's judgement avoided or even dismissed in the case of Rob Bell's new book? Would a loving God judge?  Jon Nitta of EV Free Fullerton knocks it out of the park with a necessary lesson that most churches today avoid.  MP3 link